Sexual assault is a taboo subject that changes the mood of any conversation. This is why many people avoid it. Implications of making this subject taboo results in many women not reporting their rapes. When we focus on sexual assault in the black community, we notice that it’s almost never spoken about according to a study by Black Women’s Blueprint, Sixty percent of black girls have experienced sexual abuse at the hands of black men before reaching the age of 18.
This is an outrageous number, but yet we don’t talk about it. We silence the voices of black women who try to come forward, we shame them when they do. We support the rapist especially when they have a higher social standing.
“On October 5th 2014, I was raped by Ian Connor. Everyone always wants a name and a face and oh who did he rape and blah blah, well here I am. *One* of the many that he raped was me. Oh yeah that’s right, he’s a serial rapist. I am not the only one. I’m just one of the only one’s who is telling my story. In short, he is a predator. He seeks out girls on social media that he can try to “woo” or whatever and then try to fuck and if they say no, well he takes it.” Blogged Malika Anderson three hours ago.
Ian Connor has became notorious for being famous for being famous. He is apart of A$ap Rocky’s entourage, was Wiz Khalifa’s stylist and now he is the stylist of Kanye West. From his internet persona, he has created a larger than life personality, now he’s accused of being a serial rapist. “He was fully clothed. He started to give me head. About 2 minutes later I felt his bare penis thrust inside of me. I was shocked and didn’t know what to do and then I pushed him off of me and I was like wtf”,says Malika Anderson.
Malika Anderson allegedly claims Ian raped her, she retells her story and the shame she felt after this occurred. She got tested and found out she had contracted Gonorrhea. It took her months to finally accept that she had been raped. She felt courageous and called him out as a rapist on Twitter. He began to harass her persistently from a private account. That’s when she finally decided to file a police report. She feels like her efforts are useless because Ian will never face the consequences. ” So basically these past few months have somewhat been a waste of my time bc even though I was raped, nothing will likely happen to the person who raped me aka Ian Connor. #America” she says.
Ian Connor is deny all allegations, one of his tweets saying,
Ian has seen a wave of support from rappers OG Maco, Lil Yachty and a lot of other people via Twitter. Many people are blaming Malika Anderson instead claiming she deserved it since she is sexually liberated. “I’m blocking and ignoring. It’s triggering but I knew there would be backlash”,she says. Ian’s status seems to be a deciding factor on whether or not people believe Malika, many people are slut shaming her. If we take a closer look at Ian’s past tweets, these allegations do not sound far fetched. Yet people want to place all blame on Malika for her allegations.
Ian is now using the “successful black man” excuse; basically saying that the girl is trying to sabotage him because he is successful and doing his thing.
This accusatory behavior is very common in the black community, young girls are sexually abused and blamed by the parents. The black community likes to protect the black man because society always wants to blame them. This occurrence isn’t new, it’s common. In an article by Buzzfeed entitled, “What Happens When Women At Historically Black Colleges Report Their Assaults” it spoke countlessly on how women in HBCU’s rapes aren’t handled properly, or at all. Melanie a student at Spelman University, was sexually assaulted on the Morehouse University campus. Melanie was afraid to report because she didn’t want to ruin the image of the “Morehouse Man. One of the first questions Melanie was asked was, ” Why didn’t you leave?”.
I believe we need to start holding black men accountable, whether it be family member or a celebrity. We need to change our attitudes when it comes to sexual assault, I am tired of hiring African-Americans blame the women instead of the men. Many times they call the girls “fast” and feel like it’s justified. This is toxic, you will find that women come out as victims many years later, why? Because they have been pressured time and time again to be silent. I want rape to be a topic that is talked about openly in the Black community, I want more rape survivors to not be afraid to come forward, and I want them not to be bashed like Malika.
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