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I’ve Been Sexualized Since I Was Just A Little Girl

I am a thick girl, I am aware that I am very curvy. That gives no one any right to sexualize me every single day of my life. Ever since I was a small girl everyone would tell my mom how big my bottom was. Growing up in a latino family, that wasn’t necessarily a bad thing in my mom’s ears because they like it when women have some “meat”. I started getting catcalled at around 9 or 10 years old. It’s completely sick and the worst part is that cat-callers believe you should be flattered. In what world should it be okay to sexualize a girl before she’s even gone through puberty. It should not be okay to tell a young girl she needs to wear clothes that cover more because she’s distracting grown men. I’ve seen it so often that people judge a young girl playing with the boys while wearing a dress as if she should know better and cover up. She is merely having fun but no, she can’t have fun and wear a dress at the same time.

I am now 18, I still get cat-called. I still am told to cover up. Men still think I should be flattered when they sexualize me when wearing things they wouldn’t sexualize a skinny girl for wearing. The first thing people tell me when they meet me is “wow, you have a really big butt”. I am aware, I’ve been aware since I was a little girl being sexualized for having it. Guys never tell me I am beautiful, they tell me they would have sex with me if I gave them the chance. I’m expected to be flattered. I never know when a guy likes me for me or if he’s just trying to see what’s under my pants. My guy friends will never see me for the funny girl I am because they’re too busy looking at my behind.

This needs to end. There is no good reason for a girl to feel as if being in a bathing suit is vulgar because of her curves. There is no reason for a curvy girl to feel she needs longer skirts or looser skirts than a thinner girl. There is no reason a curvy girl should not be able to stand without everyone in the room sexualizing her. There is no reason a curvy girl should get groped because people think they have a right to touch because it’s just there ‘taunting’ you. There is no reason a girl should accept cat-calls as compliments because no one takes the time to look at her beautiful yet broken face instead of her curves. There is no reason a curvy girl should feel like they give her worth because even without them she is worth the world and more. There is not reason she should feel like all she is good for is sex. She is beautiful, intelligent, funny, but she is also broken because society ripped her into pieces.

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