Billions of dollars have been made from the low self esteems of millions of people all around the globe and their search for romance. Too many movies have been made about the lost case of a woman who is just about to give up when she meets the *gasps* love of her life on the subway. As we advance into a multi-technological time a new form of love hunting has been developed through the shape of internet dating. Countless songs have been written about either finding love or losing it. It seems we are all hooked on finding the perfect man or woman to make all our dreams come true but somehow nobody ever seems to find it. Even the most ideal couples have their arguments and the most perfect love has its cracks, so why do we insist on maintaining this idea of a “perfect” relationship?
Truth is, this sweep you off your feet love isn’t real. It’s represented and showcased in front of our eyes in every “chick flick” and romance movie ever made, which creates an unrealistic expectation for people to begin with. Unfortunately in real life, you don’t see the same man three times in one day and think “huh what a coincidence, I’m going to ask for his number,” and you go on multiple dates and fall hopelessly in love. In real life, if you see the same man three times in one day you’re going to think “holy shit is this man following me, what do I do first, go home and call the police or call the police then go home?” Unattainable romantic scenarios are created in our heads that in reality would be creepy and weird if they actually occurred.
I don’t personally believe in the idea that somewhere in the world by no logical reason there is one person that we are suppose to fall in love with. I believe there is somebody out there who we need to build with and put the work in to achieve a great relationship with, and it may not always be perfect but if it’s worth it then we’ll fight for it. I believe that the concept of finding one person that we naturally get along with all hours of the day creates the illusion that if they’re “the one” then we don’t have to work for it and if it gets too difficult then giving up is the right thing to do because “if you have to force it, leave it,” right? Wrong. You are never going to get along with anybody all the time, ever. To build a strong, lasting relationship I truly believe that sometimes you have to swallow your pride and be willing to forgive and forget, say sorry when needed to and forget all the bullshit that you watch in movies. Because let’s state the obvious here –they’re movies. Sam Claffin isn’t going to fly half way round the world to surprise you unexpectedly nor is he going to leave his wife because you said you can “kind of see a future” with him. These are the motives that prevent any of us from building something real and much bigger than just a label.
Searching for the “perfect” love is like searching for God. You can always believe it’s there but you also need to take life into your own hands sometimes. Waiting, and waiting and waiting for something to hit you will give your whiplash and what for? I think love works in mysterious ways and somehow, when you’re least expecting it; it’s there.
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