“Are you ever too young to start exploring your body? I’m not as young as some people are when they do, but sometimes I feel guilty and bad about it.”
Society, as a whole, is set up in such a way that simple acts of self-love are distorted to create remorse and shame throughout our minds. All through our lives, we are told that we have to do things by certain ages or that we cannot do things at all, but what they tell us is not the case. Deciding whether to do something or not, and at what age, is a choice individuals have to make for themselves.
Self-exploration, masturbation, and increasing levels of sexual expression regarding our own bodies, are highly frowned upon forms of sex by countless religions. But we are here to say that it is OKAY for you, at any age, to explore your sexuality and its various forms. We, as people, are multidimensional, and no one can dictate what is acceptable or not acceptable for us to do.
As teens, we seek to find out more about the world and ourselves as we embark on this journey called life. We enter this rebellious time in our lives with thoughts of exploration and desire, so it only makes sense that we start with what is right here with us right now – through our own bodies. It’s merely natural for one to do so, regardless of age.
It’s not a crime to want to release all the tension within us. Being a teen in the world today is more stressful than it has ever been. There’s an immense amount of pressure to conform to what is considered “right” or “moral” – especially with one’s body – and masturbation is no stranger to this stigma. With this tense stigma, what do you do in such situations? How do we even know what we want to begin with?
You can research positions and various acts, find videos, etc., on the Internet that might be of interest to you. But remember: you are not hurting anyone and you are not guilty. You are only educating yourself on what you find arousing; not being aware or shielding yourself from this can result in your getting hurt or not knowing what makes you happy in a sexual relationship you may have later – if not now.
We all need to remember that we own our individual bodies and may do with them as we please. You and I have the right to explore the vessels in which we decide to experience the world. Knowing our bodies can give us a sense of security; we have endless possibilities of knowing what actions cause what responses and we are able to give that knowledge to those with whom it concerns.
At the end of the day, we cannot expect anyone to know us better than we know ourselves, so we must do what we can to learn what makes us. After all, before we want anyone else, we should know how to want ourselves.
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