The pain that a teenager will go through caused by a broken heart is 100% inevitable. In our lives, we will experience an infinite number of crushes and one sided loves, in which the searing pain that we repeatedly go through is rather depressing. There isn’t an actual step by step method that many other articles claim to have. I have gone through so many one-sided loves for the past 17 years of my life that I can tell you that time is what heals you completely, meanwhile there are only ways to help ease your heart from the pain. We often blame ourselves for the pain, thinking that it is us that did something wrong. We change to get acceptance from that one person, yet mostly end up hurt because of it.
“She went around with a broken heart, and she wasn’t sure who’d broken it. She thought it was herself, mostly.”
Honestly binge eating and crying for that one person is not the solution to heal. Some say that the emotion that hurt you is the one that will heal you as well, and I can say that it is not true at all. The best thing that I’ve done to let myself move on is by improving myself. Know that you are good enough and that you did nothing wrong. That is the hardest thing to do, making yourself feel good about yourself, self-acceptance. The 3 year one sided love I’ve had come to an end and i spent months crying myself to sleep feeling unworthy for everybody. Coming to think of it not overthinking is also a very important thing. It leads you to unhealthy thoughts about the situation, bringing the worst ever scenarios possible that you are most likely wanting to avoid. Even so, this doesn’t mean not to cry. Crying is essential to let your emotions lose, expressing yourself and acceptance of the reason of your pain is what will make you move on and renew your heart’s sense of direction.
A broken heart does not mean you are vulnerable. The inner pain of a broken heart brings unexpected tears to your eyes, making your lip quiver involuntarily. Know that you are strong, and understand that this will pass. People often believe that this pain will be like a cold that comes back from time to time, and yet when you find someone new, that pain disappears completely. Why? Moving on is possible. However, moving on does not mean finding someone new, but working it out yourself by understanding that there is always hope and that your own actions will determine your progress.
Give love multiple chances. Have hope on love, always. Going through a broken heart is a stage that everyone goes though in their lives. Do not let heartbreak affect your relationship with your friends and family, as they are the ones that will be there for you no matter what. Consider the pain as life lessons towards love, and on how to choose your next crush, boyfriend, love. Maybe you will find Mr. right, because the heart, is always mended if you give it time and soothing.
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