Typically, when we watch a Romance we want the movie to have a happy loving ending to project what we want in our own lives. In real life not everyone has a happy ending, at least not with a person they may have wanted to spend forever with at the time so it’s only right that some movies depict relationships that don’t work out. The movies Comet, Her and 500 Days of the Summer are movies that show the beauty of ephemerality and why we should embrace it.
Each of these movies leaves me to believe that many relationships are not meant to last, some people come into your simply to teach you a lesson and leave — it is up to you whether you make the best of that.. my suggestion is to see that you are the author of the moment and everything that happens is for you benefit.
I don’t want to spoil any of the movies but in the beginning of 500 Days of Summer the narrator says that the movie is not a love story.. although there is a love story in each of the movies this can be applied to all three.
I appreciate these films because they’re real, they show you that relationships are not always 50/50 sometimes they are 60/40 or 20/80 and that when relationships end they are for the better.
Don’t get me wrong, just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean there has to be hatred I don’t think anyone should hate anyone, I don’t think hate is anything but detrimental. When you end a relationship whether romantic or platonic it can end in love and you should not treat or view yourself poorly for finding love for that person within yourself — I think that’s strength.
A small way to improve your life is to accept change and growth, it’s important to understand and embrace when things come to an end. Whether you believe in God, a God, the Universe or nothing you should pray even if it feels like you’re talking to yourself it really helps.
If you’re heartbroken over a friendship or any relationship you can push yourself to get a new job or bring your grade, talk to an old or new friend, watch a movie and sing your heart out to Beyoncé’s Lemonade, journal or simply ‘move on’.
I know it’s not easy, I’ve been there so many times with friends but it’s worth it — although friend breakups and heartbreaks made me who I am today and I’m grateful for that everyday of my life without that I might not have been an Affinity Magazine writer or apart of the National Society for High School Scholars.
As upsetting as it is you tend to have to go through pain to grow but never hate yourself for it, efflorescence takes time and no thing on earth blooms all year long.
