Twitter is a funny place. It’s where many trends and fixations, if you will, begin. From the constant romanticizing of the smallest things in relationships to the unhealthy notion that girls are attractive by being “crazy” and “psycho”. So what exactly does the internet think love is?
The definition of love online comes attached with toxic concepts that will probably never allow relationships to truly prosper.
It seems that as of recent the internet has developed an idea that being in love consists of the amount of material things your significant other buys you. I have seen endless posts with pictures of the most expensive things, which itself isn’t the problem per say, the problem is that it seems as though this is what measures affection. If it does not live up to these expectations then it is immediately a cause for jokes. This causes relationships to become based on what the other person can provide for you rather than enjoying the company of them and caring about them.
I want my man to send me on spa dates, shopping sprees or mini vacations when I'm getting on his nerves… not act like a little bitch ?
— AsiaD ?✨ (@Ajhadee_) March 10, 2017
Another harmful trend is the “cute but psycho” trend. For some reason it seems as though a number of women on twitter have come to believe that being an overly jealous and possessive girlfriend is something to strive for. Not only does this trend undermine the seriousness of mental illnesses (which we will talk about another day on another article of its own) but all this trend does is implement an unhealthy idea that creates toxic relationships where there is no trust. This idea is not only rationalized by other women, but by men as well. They nourish this idea that being overbearing in a relationship is an admirable trait. This comes attached to the notion that being a brat and a “b*tch” is a good thing, as if being a mean-spirited individual has ever been a good thing. But hey, I guess to twitter it is.
https://twitter.com/youhmya/status/840002771663360000
Im literally a psycho when it comes to my boyfriend, dont look at him, talk to him, touch him, laugh at his jokes. nothing. Thats alll meee
— Destinee Farrell (@destineemarief) February 16, 2017
i'm a brat and i don't fucking care. KISS ME AND TELL ME IM PRETTY!!!!! pic.twitter.com/uJ7XECAf6R
— mo (@mostudys) March 16, 2017
On top of all of these concepts also comes the attitude found online that seems to pit women against each other to the point where they, themselves, go out of their way to prove that they are different from other girls. We find these posts with captions like “your wcw vs me” or something of that sort. There is usually a picture of what the person might think of as shallow or lame next to something that is smart and complex to them or what they believe will be to the gender they aim to impress. This concept hurts feminism and puts pressure on women by other women and men, to prove that they are “different” instead of being themselves. How can a relationship prosper if you are never truly honest about who you are and what your interests are? Most importantly, how will we ever learn to love ourselves this way?
Your WCW wears so much makeup she looks like a crayon
— Queen Nachos (@GigiGallo9) March 12, 2017
https://twitter.com/NikkiDohertyy1/status/824838026174066688
The more of an active user that you become online the more you realize that the definition of love for the internet is way different than what you would expect. Not to say that everyone on the internet believes or behaves this way, however, it is important to pay attention to the how normal these ideas are becoming. Tweets like the ones displayed above bring it hundreds if not thousands of retweets from other people agreeing with them. These toxic ideals that are strived for only create unhealthy relationships and will most likely never lead to being in a loving and sane relationship where you trust and are able to be yourself without feeling like you have to compete with anyone else. If you are with the right person you will never have to be the “crazy” girlfriend. If you feel uneasy about your trust for your S.O. maybe it’s time to analyze whether this relationship is the one for you. Love comes with compromises but it should never become toxic and unhealthy. Moral of this article: stop letting the internet tell you that the crazy, bratty, possessive narrative is okay. If you are a woman, stop letting the internet tell you that you have to compete with other girls to be different, you are already amazing the way that you are. If you are a man, stop putting pressure on woman to be “different” and most importantly stop telling them that it is cute to be a “crazy girlfriend”.
