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I Don’t Want A Boyfriend, I Want An Education

One thing has become very clear to me about most boys in high school: they don’t understand rejection. They believe if a girl messages them back with bland, two-letter responses, that they’re definitely still interested. They think it’s okay to pester a girl both online and offline until she magically falls in love with him. But, more seriously, they think that following a girl on all of her social media profiles and sending his friends to do the same thing once he gets blocked from those profiles is completely okay. Newsflash, it’s not! That is what someone would commonly refer to as stalking.

According to The National Center for Victims of Crime, stalking is “when someone repeatedly contacts you, follows you, sends you things, talks to you when you don’t want them to”. It is one thing to message a girl over and over asking if you’re being annoying, when you clearly are. It’s another to get everyone in your friend group to friend request her on Facebook to gain more information on why she isn’t interested in you.

Rejection, to me, seems like a pretty simple concept. You ask someone for something, try out for a play or apply to a college and you get rejected. This means, no matter how you thought it went, the outcome was not what you had planned. Although it can be hard to understand, most of the time, it is final. No questions asked. That seems to be the part that is the most difficult to understand for teenage boys. Once you are rejected, all of these questions start to race through your mind and you begin to wonder what you did wrong. This, I understand. What you should not do after this, is constantly badger the person or the place that rejected you with questions. You should not put them down for rejecting you, and you definitely should not hurl insults at a girl because she wasn’t interested in you.

The reason I am in school is to learn. I want to further my education. I want to go to college, study my passions and live a happy life. What I did not come to school for was a relationship. I did not come in looking for the cutest boy to go out with, that’s not who I am. While it is perfectly okay to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in high school, that should not be your top priority. Focus on yourself. Focus on your education and getting closer to your dream career. Your education and self-love is important. Do not let a boy or a girl make you forget that.

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