Reflecting on my middle school years, I remember that most of the girls identified as bisexual or had “girlfriends”. Most of these girls later abandoned their female lovers for male counterparts and never looked back. “Bicurious” is what we called it. Some of the girls were genuinely gay, some of them were genuinely curious, while others only said they liked girls just to attract guys. It has been a widely known fact that some guys get turned on by a girl who likes girls, even if that girl doesn’t even like guys. Some girls feed into this. This is primarily a problem because there are girls (and guys) who struggle with their sexual orientation identity and begin to explore themselves outside of hetero standards. Too many bisexual people are accused of being “confused” or are told their emotions are just a phase. Being gay was never supposed to be a trend, it was supposed to allow for the public tolerance and acceptance of those who identify with the LGBTQ community.
Growing up in a Christian household, my mother often made remarks suggesting that being gay was contagious, she even asked me if Katy Perry’s “I Kissed a Girl” made me want to kiss girls. Perry’s musical lyrics made no effect on my feelings towards girls or boys. People don’t change their whole lifestyle based on external cues, they change it based on overwhelming intrinsic feelings.
Also, can we please stop treating gay males as a fashion accessory? The whole “Gay Best Friend” thing is absurd and reminds me of how white people used to keep small black children as pets. A young lady once remarked that she wanted a GBF, and later said she doesn’t think gay couples should be allowed to get married.
To all the LGBTQ readers I want to reaffirm the fact that you do not have to explain your sexuality to anyone, not even those closest to you. You do not need to justify your romantic feelings to anyone except possibly your romantic partner. You are allowed to feel what you feel, you are allowed to explore, you are allowed to question, and you are allowed to do all of these things without other people criticizing you. Some people feel empowered by gathering all their friends and family together and exclaiming “I’m Gay!” other people like to keep their personal business to themselves. Choosing to keep your life private does not make you less gay or a traitor to the LGBTQ community, supporting agenda’s that harm the community does *cough cough* Caitlyn Jenner.
Happy Pride Month to all, people should never be anything less than proud of yourself, whether they are straight, gay, cisgender, and transgender.
