Most teens who are socially active have at least four friends. Chances are, one of those four friends has an anxiety disorder, since roughly 25% of teens aged 13-18 have one. There are many ways to help them, but I’ll be outlining only a few. Before we begin, please don’t forget that every person is not the same, and may not need what is about to be shared.
- Let them know how much you care about them.
Typically, people with anxiety disorders have many doubts. They may get paranoid about someone not liking them if they don’t reply within a few hours, or they may feel that people are judging what they’re buying at the store. Assure them of how much you care for them and enjoy them being around. It will gradually make them feel more comfortable. - Don’t make them feel bad if they can’t do something.
Sometimes, your friend may ask you to order food for them or ask a sales clerk where to find a shirt in a store. Don’t roll your eyes and call them silly! Try to support them best you can. If you’re comfortable, do what they ask. It will make them glad to have you as a friend, but also take a weight off their shoulders so they don’t have to put themselves in anxiety-causing situations. - Realize that anxiety isn’t just some “nervous” feeling.
It’s much more than being nervous a lot and it isn’t pretty. It can come from the middle of nowhere. People with anxiety disorders can get easily overwhelmed. If they decide to go out with you one night, but not the next, don’t take it personally. Sometimes, socializing with a group of friends can be exhausting for them. - Don’t directly bring it up.
A lot of people with an anxiety disorder prefer to not be flat-out asked about it. They want to be a normal human being and they don’t want people questioning them about it. To help them, you can understand what it is, and how people with it may act. - Listen to them.
Sometimes, they may try to open up to you. They may trust you enough, and just want to rant. Listen, and be understanding of them. It may not be easy for them to talk about. Don’t push them; let it happen at their own pace. But if things seem very serious, please contact a trusted adult or professional to get them help!
In summary, just be accepting of them. They’re your friend and they’d do the same for you. Treat them normally whilst also trying to understand how they feel and what they’re going through.
Everyone has struggles, and sometimes we just need someone to be there for us.
Care for your friend. It may mean more than you think.
