Ever since the seventh grade I knew that I was attracted to both girls and guys. I guess you could say I was early, but as soon as I felt something for my best friend I knew something was up. As soon as I realized that what I was had a name, I told all of my friends out of excitement because I was happy that I knew who I was and I was comfortable with it. I came out to my parents too; my dad said he didn’t care as long as I was happy. My mom was another hurdle. She didn’t think it made much sense since I’ve always shown interest in boys. She still accepts it nonetheless. I was lucky, my family and friends still love and accept me just the same. And I was lucky enough to find out that my best friend felt the same way. Needless to say, it didn’t work out. We’ve remained friends to this day, through moving away, arguments about social justice, and other relationships.
For the past two and a half years, I’ve been in a relationship with an amazing guy who loves me for who I am, which includes the rants about the stupid things I read on “ashy nigga Twitter”, my moments of excitement about Beyonce’s upcoming album, and my bisexuality. He understands that I love him and only him and that the stereotypes of bisexual people being sluts and cheaters is just that, a stereotype. Also for the past two and a half years, I’ve felt like people don’t realize that just because I have a boyfriend, it doesn’t mean I’m not gay no more (kudos to you if you get the reference). Because best believe if I was single and I saw an attractive woman I’d be in there like swimwear.
All jokes aside, I’m tired of hearing “You’re bisexual? But you have a boyfriend!” and “How are you bisexual if you eventually have to pick one?” Sexuality is not about picking sides. I love my boyfriend for who he is and how he helps grow to be a better person, not for what’s between his legs. I love my boyfriend, but that doesn’t erase who I was before him and who I will be after him. My bisexuality is not dependent on who I am in a relationship with and it will not disappear no matter who I am with.
So shoutout to the bisexual television characters like Callie Torres from Grey’s Anatomy, Annalise Keating from How to Get Away with Murder (yay for bisexual black women!!!), and even Piper Chapman from Orange is the New Black (no matter how hard they try to deny is, Piper is bisexual). And shoutout to the bisexual celebrities, like Kehlani and Amandla Stenberg, out there representing. How’s that for visi-bi-lity?
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