Dating: its fun, usually harmless, and can often lead to great friendships or relationships. However it gets slightly more complicated when you have a mental illness and the person your dating is neurotypical. Here are four red flags to let you know when you just gotta blast.
- “I just wanna save you from your demons” This person obviously sees you as a fixer upper: to them there’s no way for your life and this relationship to be fun or fulfilling when your obviously “not your best”. This person, while they think you’re a “manic pixie dream girl/ tortured and soulful man with too many emotions (or any other gender)” will always and constantly demonize you for being mentally ill and constantly blame you for your short comings. I don’t care how cute or sexy your date is. Just run.
- “Your anxiety is really cute” This person will think your mantal illness is justa cute quirk, until it isn’t. Once you show any erratic or self-harming behaviors, have a panic attack, or even try to exlplain that mantal illness isn’t some cute quirk they’ll just leave because “you’re too emotional/too much/ scary”. This person is trash and you don’t deserve to be with trash. Dump them in the nearest garbage can and treat yourself.
- They make you feel like your at fault for having a mental illness/joke about it/ make “trigger(ed)” jokes. Enough said, especially when they constantly make fun of or use your triggers against you. Run as fast as you can, delete their number, throw anything they’ve given you in the garbage.
These three things are just the most obvious signs that the person your just dating or currently in a relationship with do not deserve your time, effort, affection, or attention. They will just drain you and you’ll constantly feel awful around them. Cut them off, and move on to the next and better one.
