We’ve all lost a best friend.
When I was in 6th grade, I found incredible friends to hang out with. Of this group, there was one person that stood out above the rest. This person slowly began making her way into my diary; she was the person who was always there. That person making my best friend, my “sister from another mister.”
Throughout junior high and the beginning of high school, everything was fine but over the winter break of sophomore year I noticed the distance between us and the fly above her head – I mean her now ex- boyfriend.
The last couple of months of my sophomore year, I lost a really close friend. In the past, we had been together at all times, never doing anything without consulting with the other. We were inseparable in my mind. We even had a little pact that when either of us got a boyfriend we would still be together. LIES.
It was hard to even arrange a time to hang out because she always had plans with this guy. I was upset, I mean, who wouldn’t be? She was my best friend and she didn’t have time for me; I was jealous.
I slowly just stopped caring and decided that I’d had enough of trying to hang out with and be there for her. I started focusing on myself and my other friends. I started hanging out with other people and eventually, I didn’t feel so bad for feeling left out of her life. I would go out with other people and slowly began feeling like I didn’t have enough time for her.
It was hard to come to the conclusion that we had no more time for each other and that 5, almost 6 years were essentially down the toilet! The typical comments from people were upsetting. “You guys were so close!” “I can’t believe you guys aren’t friends anymore” Get out of my life!
A new person who liked the same things and was very alike to me walked into my life. I turned to her for everything and she was the only one who knew how I truly felt about the whole situation and then it hit me.
I had found my new best friend.
It was all good in my life once again now that I could go ahead and let go of the person who I thought was going to be there for me forever. It’s good to let go of people in your life once in a while. Never forget that life goes on.
If you feel like you can’t go on after that one friend is out of your life, go out with some new friends, maybe cry a little, but remember there’s no need to beat yourself up for stuff like this. Maybe an end to a friendship will bring something new and better into your life. I know it brought more incredible people into my life and gave me more self-esteem that I didn’t know I needed.
So, thank you “bestie” for making me realize that I am way stronger and way more valuable than when I was your “sister” and your “best friend.”
Start off clean this New Year and drop the shady people.
