Somethings that I’ve learned over the last five years is that a friendship can be formed very quickly, and sometimes those friendships can be something spectacular and forever, but not all friendships are like that. Something that I learned is people change, and sometimes suddenly and without reason.
It’s not always your fault for the change of your best friend, and you can’t always help them, and most times, they don’t want to see the change in themselves. But, it’s important to know that you deserve better in an abusive/toxic friendship. You are better than what they say otherwise, and I’m here to tell you about the few things that I’ve learned from my personal experience.
1. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT let your friend tell you that you’re worthless, or that you’ll never succeed. Never let them belittle you. You ARE better than what they may think, and though it may take you some time to realize that, especially when it’s someone you care so deeply about is telling you how worthless you are.
2. It’s not always your fault for their changes. Never let yourself think, “Well, he/she doesn’t like me now, I wonder what I did.” Sometimes people drift away, and sometimes you have to let them go, even if you’ve known them forever and you care so much about them. They don’t always realize how much you are to them until you’re gone.
3. Lastly, you are strong. You are amazing. You are spectacular. You can achieve so much, no matter what your “best friend” may think. If they tell you otherwise, are they really there for you? Will they ever be? Never let someone hold you back and keep you from achieving greatness.
Through my own personal experiences, I have learned that I shouldn’t let things get to me. Being attacked by my own “best friend” and being told I’m “stupid, sensitive bitch, worthless”, really depressed me, and there was a time when I thought maybe when he was right, that maybe I really was worthless. But I’m not. I can achieve great things, and though he may not realize it, I will eventually show him otherwise.
So please, don’t ever listen to anyone but yourself. Because you’re a smart and caring human being who is destined for great things. No matter how much you trust them and their opinions, in the end, your opinion is the only one that matters.
