We’ve all been there, we’ve all seen the Facebook posts and tweets from the single person who is bitter and constantly complaining that they’re forever going to be alone or going to grow old with 40 cats or felt disheartened after seeing a cute couple on Instagram. Granted, I used to be one of those people when I was 14 but now I realize that right now I’m happy to be single, however, for some of you, you might not be, you might long for a guy so you can be one of those #relationshipgoals couples that you see on Twitter, who go on in my opinion on the most unrealistic dates like the ones that involves a tent hanging from an unsteady tree that looks like it’s ready to snap or go on expensive holidays to the Bahamas or something but you are living in the real world and the reality is that all teenagers are broke so don’t expect your future boyfriend to take you to Cancún for your first date.
If you’re single and you think that you’re going to be “forever alone” you’re not going to be, take it from someone who has been single her entire life and has gone on many miserable dates, you will meet someone someday and be in a relationship. I know, that we all have these preferences that we want our dream guy/girl to have but I don’t think that’s how it works because if you really like someone but you reject them because of something they do that doesn’t fit that idea then you’re setting yourself up for failure.
I think being in a relationship is a beautiful thing, but I also think that being single is also a beautiful thing. Being in a relationship shows your trust in another person, it shows love, etc. Being single shows your independence not that you have to be single to be independent. The thing is it’s alright to sad that you’re not in a relationship because all humans crave that kind of emotion. The feeling to be wanted like someone having a crush on you for example. The question is why do we feel like we’re not enough for someone to have a crush on. I can tell you someone probably does have a crush on you.
It can be heartbreaking (somewhat) when the guy you like doesn’t like you back or you get broken up with but you have to take a break and say that these things happen but don’t see it as a reason, because sometimes things just happen, it’s not the end of the world and your life won’t end without that certain person in your life and in the long run you’re not gonna remember the guy who broke your heart 10 years ago or maybe you will but it won’t be in a negative light, maybe that person changed your life, sometimes relationships can be lessons. The best you can do is look forward and move on, I know it’s not easy. At all. but you are going to slowly move on and when you think you’re ready you’re gonna find the guy that you’re “destined” for.
I’m still a teenager, but this is all from experience that I’ve had or dealt with so far. I’m still learning about relationships and boys and I know that I’m not going to be forever alone and neither are you! Don’t wait for your future significant other to come to you, you can make the first move, no matter how nerve wracking it it, in the end, you’re gonna be okay.
