As a teen in high school I always craved a fun, cool, simple, NOT long lasting high school relationship. However, I’ve grown. I went from a very much fake, close minded person to someone who sees reality and craves change. Along the way I’ve met a really great guy, Damean Layne. He’s not your definition of socially conscious because as a teenager he is also still learning.
Damean Layne was not a feminist when I met him. He was a laid back young man with an incredible mind. He asked questions and wasn’t offended much. We had civil conversations on controversial topics like rape, abortion, women’s rights, culture appropriation, etc. He was never taught about those topics. I was there to enlighten him. I talked to him and answered his questions. I soon realized that I was falling in love. No, he wasn’t woke and still isn’t completely. But It’s amazing that he is so open minded and down to be educated. He will put up good points but so will I.
No, you don’t have to date a feminist because that doesn’t automatically mean that he/she/they are not open to learning and understanding. There are so many people out there willing to be taught. Many disregard them because they don’t have feminist written on their forehead. In my opinion, that’s a little hypocritical of you all. You want to make a change, reach every person and don’t stay hidden in your own bubble.
Additionally, I am not affectionate nor am I straight. My boyfriend, however, is incredibly affectionate and gets really hurt that I’m not kissing him 24/7. I understand but I’m not that person. I explain to him almost every week why I’m not and he’s still very much hurt about it but one day it will happen for us. Having sex for the first time. I refrain from saying virginity since that is to be seen as only a social construct. I want to make him happy and myself because I do crave sex just not as much. Now, my bisexuality fits into play because it bothered my boyfriend at first. He felt as if I was drifting away but no I’m not I’m just attracted to chicas. He’s very much over it after I explained. He still gets on edge but he supports me 100% of the way.
As you can tell my boyfriend is a very caring, sensitive guy. And I am insanely in love.
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