Any minute now. You can hear the clock ticking behind you, almost mocking you. Now you’re pacing back and forth. Come on! Is he dead? What does a girl need to do to get a text back?
We’ve all been there. Hell, I’ve even been there. You just went on the best date of your entire life, with a guy that seems, well, perfect. You guys hit it off immediately, it’s almost like–you were meant for each other. But, an hour passes. A couple hours. Then, a day. 3 days. A week. And still, no text. What happened? What did you do wrong? Does he hate you? Did he change his mind? Did his phone break? Did he fall off the face of the earth?
First, breathe. Nothing is wrong with you, and I’m sure he is just fine. Yes, you guys hit it off. The date seemed to go really well. He seemed really into you. So, why didn’t he text you?
There could be a million and one reasons why you didn’t get that ever sought out text back, but it all boils down to one thing. He, or any love interest you ever have, had absolutely no obligation to hit you up after the date. This may seem disappointing at first, but, it’s true.
Maybe he really liked you, but he couldn’t go through with it. He may be not ready, he may think he’s not worthy, he even may actually be too busy to have someone else in his life right now. Maybe he felt like he wasn’t really truly himself on the date, and he feels guilty. Or, maybe he’s just not into you. And that’s totally okay. Maybe you remind him of his ex, maybe he feels just a little too short for you, maybe he thought your laugh was a little weird. Maybe he was looking for something casual when you weren’t, maybe he was looking for something more when you obviously weren’t. Hell, maybe he feels like you’re not into him.
But either way, it’s not your fault. That’s just how it is sometimes, and the minute you accept this, is the minute you achieve peace within yourself. Stop worrying about the little tiny thing you maybe, possibly could’ve done better to sway him, it wouldn’t have changed anything. It could’ve been any damn thing in the world why he didn’t respond (maybe he might’ve actually fell off a cliff, who knows!) But, there’s no need to fret. Put this in perspective, think about all of the times you didn’t hit someone up after meeting them for the first time. Maybe it was the way they talked, the way they treated the waiter, or even the way they never noticed that their damn shoelaces were untied. Every single person has their unique quirks and preferences; we all fall for people for different reasons. Similarly, people find different and the most random things unattractive. What he might’ve seen as you over sharing, someone else would see a person of depth. It’s fun this way though. Otherwise the dating pool would be a huge bore.
So, the next time you get hit with a “Read at 1:18 PM”, don’t sweat. In all honesty, it probably doesn’t even mean anything. Be thankful of the great experience you had together, and eliminate the idea that good first dates always have to lead somewhere. Sometimes it’s just fun to have a fun date and meet someone new, with no strings attached. It wasn’t meant to be, and it doesn’t have to be. While the mature thing to do would be to respond and explain why you don’t see things going anywhere, in reality this won’t always happen. Just know, that piece of spinach you had stuck in your teeth the whole night, will one day make the right person fall in love.
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